Sunday, November 21, 2010

Love At First Sight= Scientific?

A long time ago, there was once a college student who, upon opening her front door, laid eyes on someone she felt she had known all her life within seconds of meeting him. She had no idea what had happened except that she had been struck on the rear-end with cupid's arrow and heard angels sing (no lie!) at the exact moment. According to match.com, this unexpected yet surprising phenomenon that happened to me was love at first sight. I will never be able to describe the feeling, but if you've ever experienced it, you know what I'm talking about. Apparently there's a science behind it, the website reports. " You and I have inherited the brain circuitry for this instant attraction, what has become known as “love at first sight.” This spontaneous passion comes from our primordial past when, like other mammals, our female forebears had a monthly period of heat. Like all mammals that have only a few hours, days or weeks to procreate, these ancestors had to become attracted quickly. They couldn’t spend two months or two years discussing their suitor’s career and family plans. They had to meet and produce offspring fast. Today, first meetings are still crucial. With little or no knowledge of this stranger, we tend to weigh heavily those few traits we first encounter. Based on these morsels of information, we almost instantly form a strong opinion of him or her, generally within the first three minutes."
Passion for the person we're attracted to can fall into two categories: love or lust. The website says one can determine the answer by how much (in percentage) you think about him/her during the day and evening. "Romantic love is an obsession. It can happen in a moment, but when it strikes, you can't get your new beloved off your mind. This passion can last--sometimes for many years," match.com says. In my case, the "passion" i felt for this person must've been love because he consumed my thoughts 24/7 for many years. LOL! Sometimes I think he's my soulmate. Even though I haven't seen him in years and are divided by mountains, rivers, valleys and a couple of states, I still feel him around me sometimes. Case in point: the other night as I was heading out of my car to enter my house, I had this sudden urge to look up at the sky; there was a voice telling me to look up. So I did, and I just smiled. Good memories do that to you.

1 comment:

  1. I so agree with you momma.. Love at first sight happens ONE TIME.. That's why it's so hard to forget .. Alls we can do is smile and remember, bcoz time and life goes on and on... Keep smilin' chickaz.. U're a great writer!

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